TW: Violence, Abuse

#PoonamPandey

I was watching the reality show Lock Upp yesterday. Poonam Pandey talks about her abusive relationship. She was with this guy for 4 years. And he would beat the shit out of her. She owes a 4 storied house with staff. She paid for everything. Yet her then partner would have complete control over her life. He would not let her take her phone out of the room. Remember, she paid all bills.

Her right part of the head still hurts and she undergoes periodic treatments as she has been bashed against the wall many times. She lost her sense of smell as he broke her nose many times.

She is a woman who had agencies to end it. But took 4 years to call the police to intervene.

It's a classic case of abuse, where your abuser firstly makes you believe that no one will love you, but them. And that you are not worth anything if they move away. That's what abusers do. They, first play with your head. And make you believe in your worthlessness. And then it's always a downward spiral from there. Always.

Abusers are smart asses. They try with a little smirk here and there. And then it goes to a traumatic extent.

I don't know who needs to hear this. But if anyone tells you your life is worthless without them. It's a red flag. Run today. People who love you don't abuse you. It's a dysfunctional system that makes the abused believe that they deserve it.

You don't deserve it. No one does. And that person is not your Messiah. Today love yourself hard and run. Don't get used to abuse. It will make you defunct.

This is valid for all genders.

I am sorry if you are going through it. But run. Now.

Love.

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